The Paris Attacks

Our pastor’s daughter is living in France five hours outside of Paris. You can imagine this was on our minds after the attacks in Paris on Friday night.

My oldest and dearest friend lives in Belgium. The same country where some of the Paris bombers were seeking asylum. This, too, was on my mind after hearing about the attacks.

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My heart, as soft as it is, has become so much harder since 9/11. I work every day to consciously love others and demonstrate Christ’s love. And I have to say that upon hearing of the attacks I became angry. I was so mad.

And Glenn, our Pastor, who had been speaking about the vampires in our lives, interrupted his series to talk about the attacks and talk about how Christ would like us to respond. Using passages from Matthew and more, he talked about how Christ would want us to turn the other cheek (one of the passages Glenn jokes is a passage that many of us would like to remove from the Bible) and to sacrifice personally, because we are set apart in His name. We are to be a people of peace in our interactions with others. We are not to denigrate or insult or murder someone’s psyche or spirit, to the same degree that we are not to physically murder someone. God calls us to extend grace and forgiveness. This is a one-on-one ethic that Paul expounds on in Romans.

But Jesus also talks about a societal ethic.

He says that God allows for those in authority to make punishments or rules about those who break the peace and hurt others. My quandary is how in the world do those people do it! What a burden it has got to be. This is clearly how people end up with hubris. The thought that we need to love others and to punish others (in love) is such a challenging concept. Obviously I’ve known that we need to love others, and at the same time I know that punishment is necessary. But as complex as this is, it gets even more complicated when you consider the hurt that is terrorism.

On another note:

Our pastor’s daughter is fine and lives outside the city, but one of the things she’s struggling with is that she is immersed in the culture completely. NO English at all, even her host family doesn’t speak English. Not one word. So she feels alone a lot. Glenn had a great suggestion for her. He suggested that she use the alone times to pray and read her bible (oh, there are also no Christians there, church is virtually non-existent) and use that time to grow. Would you love to have the gift of time to do the same?

Thoreau on the Seine, anyone?

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Family Traditions

My sister-in-law has been trying to reach me. I haven’t been able to carve time out to talk to her until today. It’s been about a month! I usually feel good by the end of our conversation, and today was no exception. We were planning two get-together s. One a weekend during which the guys were going to work together on my hubster’s truck, and the other, Thanksgiving. My brother-in-law has a welding machine at home so while the boys are working/playing, my sister and I will be having out own fun. We talked about going to the  city zoo with her sweet little foster child, baking Christmas cookies, o
r doing crafts.

I can’t wait.

We live four hours apart – far enough to be unable to get our busy schedules together frequently. We have always wished that we lived closer so that the kids could spend more time together. And make traditions.

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Do you have any holiday traditions? Over all my years of parenting I have thought about the importance of tradition and worried that I didn’t create enough. I’m going to list a few of the ones that we’ve instituted at our house over the years:

  1. First Snow that Stays on the Ground: White Meal (everything white: chicken, mashed potatoes, cauliflower, white cake, etc)
  2. First Day of Spring: Pastel foods
  3. St Patrick’s Day: Green Meal
  4. Easter: Easter Baskets left outside for the Bunny to find. Bunny flies in on a helicopter and fills the baskets, and we discover them upon hearing the helicopter fly away. Yes, a Helicopter.
  5. Fourth of July: Taco Bell Meal eaten on the side of the road for the Hershey Park Fireworks. “Side of the road” sounds weird, and it is, but its the thing. And we lay on blanket and play board games all evening until the Fireworks go off.
  6. Thanksgiving – when my brother-in-law, his wife and two kids share this holiday with us (whether in their state or ours) we have a tradition of having a gingerbread decorating contest. We have the kids split up into 2 teams and each decorate a house. We still do this even though they are adults (ages 18 – 26).
  7. Christmas Morning: the kids wake us up and once we finally get done with our showers, they can open their stockings. Once they’ve opened them, we sit for breakfast/brunch. When that is finally over we begin to open our presents. We start by giving the youngest her first gift, and then one at a time each person goes in turn to open one single present. Once everyone has take a turn to open a gift, and we have all ooh’d and ah’d every time one was unwrapped, we start doing it again… and this can take all day! When they were little they weren’t allowed to wake us up so they would sing from their hallway until we heard them singing and came out.
  8. Christmas Eve: Christmas Eve church service and evenings at Gramma Rogers
  9. Sock-mas. I started this one last year, 2014.

I’m going to start some more but I’ll have to see how to fit them in now that everyone is either away at college or moving out completely.  I’d love to know what traditions others do to unite their family!

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Simple stuff.

Today I am frustrated, because earlier this morning I had an aha moment, and thought that it was something I really needed to share on the blog. Because it was so pivotal, I was sure I’d remember it.

I’m home now, at 3:30 pm, after a full and blessed day, and for the life of me I can’t remember what it was I wanted – needed – to share!! Well, be assured it was lovely and eye-opening, lol. I can swear to that because of the type of day I had. Simply enjoyable and fulfilling.

This morning a group of my coworkers and I volunteered at a local food bank. The food bank is at my church. So I was happy to bring some of my coworkers to my favorite place! And the people at the food bank (my church family) was so happy to have the extra hands to help out today. They were so appreciative. And bonus: our worship band was practicing. Bill was scheduled to be on but he had to go out of state to his brother’s to work on his truck. But we got to hear some great music (albeit over and over again because they were practicing, lol, but still!)12189990_10207007747364447_6091569011106868088_n (2)And then after my terrific morning (and after my now-forgotten aha moment), I had the pleasure of enjoying lunch with two friends. They are a mother and daughter whom our family met 12 years ago when our daughter Sarah began playing field hockey in 7th grade. We really liked her parents and the whole family was terrific. I’m so glad we are all still in touch. The daughter, Ali, was visiting home for the weekend and is entering grad school in January. She’ll be going into a new field that I just know is perfect for her.

I got home, as you saw, at around 3:30 pm – when I started this post – and had to put it aside then for the next 5 hours because I had to manage the puppy!!!!! I am exhausted, lol.

But even with that, it was a great day. Thanks for letting me share it!

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He’s gold.

My husband’s job is really rough. He works from 10 to 13 hours a day with no break for lunch (he can eat while he works which isn’t healthy but literally, he could eat, though he usually does not).

He is scheduled to work 10 hours 5 days a week, but he inevitably works 12 or 13 on 2 or 3 of the 5 days. I tell him that he is going to kill himself for this company. He’s been doing it for years. I tell him that the company won’t ever address the issue if he keeps solving their problems. He differs…

He tells me he stays and works because of his co-workers. If he were to leave on time he would be leaving them in a horrible position. Phones ringing, timed reports would get missed and the 30 growling men in the dispatch room were all be growling at one person instead of two.

He tells me he stays and works because of the 30 growling guys in the dispatch room. They all get paid by the miles they put in, and if he can help them get on with their day, he wants to be able to do that.

He tells me that I would do the same thing in his place.

I tell him I wouldn’t, because I think that the company will only staff the management appropriately if they have to deal with the issue head-on. I’m not that nice.

…He’s a pretty special guy.

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Romance, motorcycles and marriage

Toward the end of a tense day during which I felt like I was getting nowhere, just digging a hole, Bill called me as he left work.

The sun was shining, the temperature was mild, and he wanted to know if I would like to take a motorcycle ride. I immediately said yes. I left work just about on time, and when I got home Bill had exercised the dogs and was ready to go. I changed my clothes, we coordinated out helmet intercoms for the first time, and off we went.leaves2

Today is only Wednesday, but we’ve both had a stressful week. His worse than mine, we did feel somewhat better after leaving our church Lifegroup last night, but once again the day was stressful. We’ve only had the motorcycle a few weeks, but it’s like we’ve had it for 30 years, instead of taking a 30 year hiatus. We both really enjoy it. I have to admit that I probably wouldn’t feel comfortable enough to doze on it, as I did riding on the back when I was young. But that is probably an example of being a wiser person than I was back then, lol.

As we rode, we shared our thoughts because of our intercoms. The beauty of the changing leaves, the rolling hills, the mountains, the farmhouses decorated for the fall season. But we still got the thrill of the bike.

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I felt that if I HAD to be in some suspended animation (like flying to Mars or in a forced coma???) I would like to request that they (they??) play the videos history of my brain and play the views of the hills and mountains like we saw today. Simply beautiful.

We rode through the side roads to a PA Dutch diner (The Farmer’s Wife) and enjoyed talking over dinner, then we rode home as the sun went over the horizon and we rode in the dark.

Funny how a simple motorcycle ride turned out to be so romantic – and what a stress reliever!

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Sock-mas

I started what we are now calling “Sock-mas” in our house last year on Christmas day.

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I began to randomly toss out socks throughout the festivities to everyone there. The kids LOVED it. Mostly because I don’t usually throw things at them, lol. But I started it because we always need socks and don’t think of it. Clearly it is a need for everyone! I wasn’t sure if I’d do it again but my 21 year old just brought it up. Obviously a new Christmas tradition has been started!

socks2I have been feeling like I don’t have enough meaningful traditions in our family. Maybe I need to rethink that thought. Maybe it’s not about the important ones. Just the ones we’ll all remember.

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An Italian and an Estonian walk into a bar…

During the drama of yesterday , I mentioned to Bill my desire to do something to the front yard. As I said this, I was holding the hose as Bill scrubbed the sludge off of his hands.

When he responded, he began to gesture, finally walking over to one of the trees in the yard, and, with his hands covered in soap, began to move the full length of his arms as he talked about shaping the tree.  I had to laugh and mentioned that his Italian was coming out. 

He responded with, “Really? I wonder how Estonians would handle this conversation. Oh, right, they would silently pick up their laptops and do a Google search…”*

I LOVE that he knows this about this tiny country across the globe, lol.

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And here is what he’s basing that comment on:

from 2014: Estonia – Most Wired Country in the World 
and from this article from way back in 2006:
“more cell phones than people and nearly ubiquitous WiFi coverage across the country, both commercially and in homes of citizens. I found national identification cards embedded with a microchip, which allow citizens to utilize a variety of online “e-services” in day-to-day life, from e-Tax systems and e-Banking to e-Healthcare, and in October 2005, for the first time anywhere in the world, nationwide e-Voting. “
and from this 2013 article on The Economist referencing that all school were online as early as 1998:
“A nationwide project to equip classrooms with computers followed and by 1998 all schools were online. In 2000, when the government declared internet access to be a human right, the web spread into the boondocks. Free Wi-Fi became commonplace. Rubber stamps, carbon paper and long queues gave way to “e-government”. The private sector followed: the sale of Skype to eBay in 2005, for $2.6 billion, created a new class of Estonian investors, who made tens of millions of euros from their shareholdings—and have been putting their experience, and their windfalls, to good use.”

 

 

 

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On toilet sludge and …squirrel!

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So most days I have these great thoughts that strike me like an ah-ha moment, and I say, “Wow, I really need to blog about this. I want to remember this and share this.”

And then I get super busy and forget. lol

And then there are days like today, where all hell breaks loose, all of my good intentions go to the wayside and my plumbing breaks (stops up. literally), the cleaning and the painting don’t get done, and we basically have to decide whether or not we want to risk breaking into the main line or whether we want to wait until Monday to call the plumber. Because I am so cheap that I would rather miss showers and pee into a bucket then pay a plumber on a weekend.

Wow, writing that down sounds really bad. Really funny, but really stupid. But I’m still laughing.

And so in my escapism I turn to Facebook and Thirty-One.

be5c7d30badd8c09c83b69fe5e6ce823 Here I see that the wonderful Melissa Fietsam does something awesome that I want to adopt. The first party of every month gets all of the profits donated to the hostess’s favorite charity.

Doesn’t that kick butt?? Now THIS is a perk of having my own business!

 

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Kids Just Don’t Know…

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Kids just don’t know what they do to their parents when the kids go off to college!

For my oldest child’s senior year of high school I was a wreck. I would cry at the slightest thing and I had to stick my nose into everything he had going on. And that was the year I learned the term, “helicopter parent”. I also began to notice that he had begun separating himself from me and even though he still shared a lot with me, he was clearly marking boundaries. That really stung. Still does, a bit, because we’ve never had the same relationship again. I mean, its great, but it’s just different. He left for college and over time since then has really begun to relate to his dad. Which is awesome, but again, different for me since he was the little prince in a houseful of women.

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When the second and third children left, they would complain that I didn’t call enough – but I was trying to learn from the past and let them find their legs. We had some great talks, and at this point I still had one kid at home, so theirs was more of a gentle transition.

This year was another challenge – our youngest left. Talk bout transition! Whoa. The empty house is crazy – at least with one child it felt fuller. Now the house seems to echo, its so empty.

My husband walked around for the first few weeks like someone slammed a door in his face. We bought a motorcycle. We ate out. A lot. We were exhausted. We couldn’t go to bed we were so keyed up. We bought a couch. We sat on the couch. We were too busy even to do laundry.

20140516_020954915_iOSAnd I can’t tell my daughter, our youngest, how big this void is for us, because she is dealing with her own separation issues. I can’t tell her how much I miss her (really, it’s hard to convey) and she seems like she’s dealing with this like a typical college student away from home for the first time, but she’s not even calling as much as her sisters did, so I know that means it is probably worse for her and she’s trying not to let her guard down.

She and I have always been big proponents of the Fake It till you Make It behaviors as described here and here

She and I are both the youngest and a lot alike.

So I fight back my tears and reexamine life , and assuage my husband’s concerns about what life will bring us. And then we take the bike out and ride it around the block.

Kids just don’t know.

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